So much of what we see on our phones triggers so much emotion based on assumptions we make and this should be avoided. In a conversation with my mother about everything and anything I was explaining to her that I have lowered my social media presence and consumption because there is so much I see, I probably shouldn’t be seeing. Picking up my beautiful iPhone I explained that “if this was a Nokia 33:10 I probably wouldn’t have seen this person’s post and no assumption would be made”. All assumptions would be based on reality and therefore closer to the truth because my only opportunity to hear from or see a loved one would be either face to face or via the phone.
I spent a few months in 2020 abstaining from social media, and then made a decision to completely step away for a period of time in order to really ensure that I control my social media consumption rather than having it defining me. I felt I needed to be more present with who I am and have always been. I just needed to connect to her again and finding myself scrolling through images and life events of others brought me further away from me and closer to them. Inevitably I found myself changing identities because of a still image of someone else’s beautiful aesthetics. I found myself wanting to wear this and then that every scroll and double tap. I began to ask myself but away from this, who are you?. I thought about friendships and how they would traditionally end in older generations. Historically I assume that a goodbye would be a goodbye and no communication would further take place unless you bump into the person which would probably be rare and therefore give you healing and forgiving space. Now, we are communicating without communicating. We have an idea of what people are doing and how they are.
All of this to say that having spent time off my favourite app, and in my journey of choosing to do so, I feel so much closer to me and it’s a beautiful feeling. My relationships are beautiful because they are more intentional. I am present. Not that I wasn’t intentional in the beginning but I truly felt I needed to refine and go back to the basics of who I am and what my principles are. I feel amazing. This isn’t to say that I have lost all desire to share my moments on such apps, but when I do make a return I know I will be more intentional and grounded.
I also want to add that every circumstance is different. I wouldn’t expect you to do this if there is monetary value in your social media presence. For me, it has always been a space to share, be inspired and to leave. I would just encourage you to be intentional with it because I understand. Another thing I also have to understand is that adaptation needs to take place. For example, there are events I can only first discover on Instagram so I’m not in the know of things. Instead I have subscribed to any platform I like to keep up to date and I guess this is what will work for now. I also miss the relationships I’ve built over social media! There are women on there who exude beauty and inspire me so much in a positive way! It’s not easy, but there is a way to make it work. It doesn’t have to be forever but I do know that right now I have joy because of it. There’s so much to avoid if we think of our phones as the Nokia 3310.
Happy new year,
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.